From Ava DuVernay in an article about advice to young movie directors…
“I rarely meet people who tell me what they’re doing. I often meet people who ask, ‘Can you help me?’ or ‘How do I do this?’ or ‘Do you want to have coffee?’ ‘Can I take you to coffee?’ ‘Can we grab a coffee?’ ‘I’d love to take you to coffee and pick your brain a little bit.’ ‘Can I send you a script?’ ‘Can you read my script?’ ‘I have a script that I’d love for you to just check out if you can.’ ‘Can you be my mentor?’ ‘I need a mentor.’ ‘I would love if you could mentor me.’ ‘Is it possible for us to talk?’ All of that energy, all of that focus to extract from other people is distracting you from what you’re doing. All of that is desperation.
“When I figured that out, things started to change for me. When I’m meeting people and they’re in that moment, I want to say something to them. ‘Knock it off, because it’s never going to work for you.’ That feeling of ‘I need help. I need all of these things to proceed.’ And when I got that, a revolution happened for me
“All of the time you’re spending trying to get someone to mentor you, trying to have a coffee, all of the things we try to do to move ahead in the industry is time that you’re not spending time working on your screenplay, strengthening your character arcs, setting up a table reading to hear the words, thinking about your rehearsal techniques, thinking about symbolism in your production design, your color palette. All the time you’re focusing on trying to grab, you’re being desperate and you’re not doing. You have to be doing something. Because all of the so-called action that you’re doing is hinging on someone doing something for you.”
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Sissy Night Crossdressing Club July Edition
“Patriotic costumes welcome! Celebrating the red, white and blue!”
Date & Time: Wednesday, July 16, 2014 · 7:00 PM –10:00 PM
289 8th Street
San Francisco, CA
Cost: Support Wicked Grounds by purchasing food, it is a great place to enjoy dinner & dessert as well as coffee. Donation pumpkin will be passed around.
Dress code: Let’s go patriotic with red, white and blue! Crossdressing ENCOURAGED even if non-passing. Secretly wearing panties? Flash us as a sign of solidarity!
WELCOME TO SISSY NIGHT!
Crossdressers, sissies, maids, cosplayers, cis-men that wear panties, women, trans and gender bending folks of all kinds welcome. The focus is on the feminine and ultra-feminine so we use the word “sissy” to denote ruffles and extravagance, not humiliation.
Dominants and supporters who enjoy sissy and cd/tv energy also invited.
Costuming is welcome! Please dress up!!!
For those of you who need a place to change, please respect that Wicked Grounds only has one bathroom. Fortunately, Wicked Grounds is 18+ so we love it when you change in back with us. Please flash us your pretty panties as you change into something more comfortable! It is fun to share our transformations with each other. Makeup is also welcome at the table.
Many of us have no safe place to get dressed so doing so as a group is deeply empowering as well as a necessity for some who cannot share this side of themselves with their household or coworkers.
Mistress AliceInBondageLand is available to help with makeup (please bring your own foundation if possible).
The group adjourns to Bondage a Go Go to dance the night away. “BAGG” is a kinky goth club around the corner at the Kat Club. It is 21 and over and serves alcohol, please bring ID. They have two dance floors and a small dungeon.
For more information, contact Mistress Alice on fetlife or at http://www.aliceinbondageland.com
Just TWO more members & we will reach our fundraising goals this month! Thanks for being part of kinky teamwork!
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